Sharing Coffee Talk


Dear Friends,

Today can we talk a little truth?  Maybe I should say these things and maybe I should not.

Long ago and far away I started blogging. It was a little over ten years ago! When I started blogging it was like this magical group of ladies who suddenly found a connection with each other on the internet and our common love was home.


We would share decorating and cooking ideas with each other in a real world way. It was like coffee talk over the internet.  We'd talk about budgets, decorating challenges, gardening, white spray paint, cooking, kids, and all sorts of things near and dear to our hearts.  This was long before blogging became what it is now where everything is supposed to look so perfect. Back then a blog post didn't have to be a DIY how-to post; it could just be what you cooked last night and shared because the food was yummy.

That was then and this is now. But allow me to ask this - is your home perfect? Mine isn't! We have people and pets. We have dog hair and shoes on the floor. We have laundry in the basket that I need to wash and you can bet I won't be using laundry soap I made myself!  We have too many things to do on a daily basis in a world that spins just a little too fast. I'm rambling...


If we aren't careful, images we see in media including magazines and blogs can steal the joy of the holidays. Do you agree? This season I want to take care to enjoy the moments. I want to share a cup of coffee with a friend. I want to listen to sweet music. I want to have family around as much as possible for good food and games. I want to enjoy Thanksgiving and Christmas for all that they are.


I want to share time with others and I bet you do too. :)


That's what is on my mind today friends. We're not perfect and thank goodness we don't have to be! If you came to share coffee today we could talk about all kinds of things.  What are y'all doing for Thanksgiving? Have you started Christmas shopping yet? How's your husband? How are your kids and grandkids? I might tell you about my sweet friend and neighbor who just moved to Colorado last week. I might brag about my sons and you could too.  We could talk about get-togethers, pretty dresses, and favorite cakes. I'd complain about needing to lose 5 or 7 pounds.  Sharing time and thoughts without worrying about perfection.


Thanks for coming to Poofing the Pillows today. You are always welcome!

Today I'm joining a friendly and talented group of ladies for the Top Shelf Clearance Challenge. The challenge is to find something on clearance for less than $15 and incorporate it in your home. I found the darling Rae Dunn SHARE dish at TJ Maxx for $10. It fits in perfectly with my goals for the holiday season and it makes me smile. 


And to prove that things are not perfect here at our house I leave you with this. 




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49 comments

  1. Nope, not perfect here - not by a long shot. I still try to share what I had for dinner, or how the plants look. I still love to read blogs that share their day, or a trip they just took. As I am typing this I have dust bunnies under my book shelves and dirty dishes in the sink from breakfast. xo

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  2. Stacey, I totally, totally agree and recently wrote a post about a similar topic...the truth about easy DIYs ~ that most are really not. I fear that by classifying something like re-tiling your bathroom floor that way we actually discourage people from feeling happy about the truly simple DIYs like cleaning out the fridge or organizing the pantry without all the bells and whistles. And trust me, even after I do those things, they're still not perfect...and my house? Ha! I have teenagers and a husband who works from home a lot. 😉 No chance!!

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  3. Thanks for being honest. I really appreciated the reality of your last photo.

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  4. Reading this could not have been more timely.

    The only thing on my list today other than finishing up a blog post for a Thanksgiving table setting blog hop that goes live tomorrow. But, when I was editing photos last night, they were not "perfect" and that was because there are fires raging in my county and the light made my photos washed out. I also noticed that the greenery in my centerpiece had gotten moved around a bit from my moving it around so many times for the photos.
    Before I read your post, I actually thought I should set everything up again and retake all of the photos even though the fires are still raging and the light is still poor. But, your post made me realize that the photos I have to share are "real". Life happens and we can't always photoshop it away.
    I will use you as an excuse when Steve asks me why I spent more money on more "stuff" for Christmas because without pics to take I can slip out for some unnecessary shopping this morning. It's either that or clean the house.
    Thanks for making me think this morning.

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  5. Stacey, I'm looking really hard to see what's not perfect with that last photo. Just sayin'...

    But I agree, I feel that too. I like a good DIY now and then as well as anyone, the same with a recipe or a good tip or seeing a beautiful home. But I also value what is what I call "real life" -- the cat who hurls on carpet instead of the kitchen floor; tossing a batch of cookies because a glass fell from the overpacked cupboard (don't ask) and shattered too close for comfort; worrying about a relative who isn't well; the pile of art and packaging supplies covering every surface in the dining and living areas for my sale... all that and so much more.

    Life is messy. My floor is messy. But life is also good and also real. So I love that you posted this. And I join you in keeping it real!

    (And I looked at the pix again and I did see it. But you had to point it out to me. I guess I'm just used to seeing stuff like that here!)

    Jemma is moving? Oh, you'll miss her so...

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  6. I don't have the perfect home or perfect DIY or perfect photos perfect writing technique or perfect anything. It stresses me too much to worry about all of that. If you dropped in today, you will find dishes draining by the sink, a few in the sink that I haven't put in the dishwasher and some stray food item on the counter that I forgot to put away. You will also find dirty clothes in the laundry baskets, clothes in the washer and clothes in the dryer. I'm currently involved in a Bible study that is helping me ease away from playing the "comparison" game. I much prefer sharing this real life to comparing a fake one! Love and hugs!

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  7. Love this Stacey. I've learned a lot this past year as we have dealt with a cancer diagnosis and subsequent surgeries, the selling of my in laws estate, and most recently my mother's passing. Life is far too short to get caught up in someone else's "pretty". Just as you posted today, we usually don't see what's outside of the camera lens' view. Thanks for sharing.

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  8. Stacey, I absolutely love this post!! The drive for perfection really does take the fun out of it all! Life is so much more beautiful with all of its flaws and faults! I started a blog about 8 years ago, it was so much fun, I met the most amazing people, but it started to put way too much pressure on my already chaotic life, as a young mom. One day, I realized it wasn’t worth all the hassle and fuss, so I stopped blogging. It wasn’t until this year when I was ready for the challenge again, and started LeCultivateur. This time around I have realized that perfection isn’t necessary, this is just a fun outlet for me to connect with other creative, like minded people.
    Thank you so much for joining us this month on our Top Shelf Clearance Challenge!!
    ~Emily

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  9. Such a wonderful post to read! Its great to put things into perspective! Im literally the opposite of perfection lol! I've got my lil wildlings, homeschooling, and a house full of fur babies. We live by the seat of our pants everyday ha ha ha!

    ~ Noelle TheColorfulwingsJournal.com

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  10. Stacey, Your post is so enjoyable to read. So true in so many ways. I love that we could chit chat on anything. Even though we live miles away daily we talk to each other. How sweet is that. I love your clearance item. I love how you styled it. It looks so cute!
    ~Terrie

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  11. If you could only see my house. Almost every room has an identity crisis going on at the moment. I sooooooo wish blogging could be a little more old school sometimes. I could totally write almost every day about something going on around here, but I feel most people wouldn't read it. Sort of like how the Seinfeld show was a show about nothing particular. I do wish I was your neighbor just to drink coffee with you.

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  12. I love coming to your blog, dreaming and often times inspired to try different colors or styles. I look at this from a different perspective, most of you are living in very large, well furnished, currently updated homes and your photos look like a professional has styled and photographed each photo. I on the other hand live in a very tiny retirement cottage, with very simple furnishing, my photos are clearly my photos, although I am proud to say they have improved through the years. I am looking at all of you with a different set of eyes, and am in awe and wonder of all you present on a daily basis. I often times do not participate in round-ups because I don't feel my work is good enough, I just don't think you ladies know how good you really are! Hope all of you have a wonderful Thanksgiving!
    Hugs To All,
    Miz Helen

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  13. Great post, Stacey. Thanks for bursting my bubble. I thought you were perfect! Have a great week.

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  14. Thank goodness for YOU and what you bring to all of us.
    When I call and share my heart and my crazy thinking you listen and always say just the right thing:)
    I LOVE this post!

    L-

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  15. Stacey thanks for being honest. It was something I think almost everyone needs to read and think about, if we are being honest too. I know it's easy to get caught up in the commercialism that seems to plague everything now. I find myself wishing for "the good old days" especially around winter and Christmas. What I wouldn't give for one more of the wonderful Christmases I enjoyed when I was a little kid. Anyways, I really enjoyed the chat and your little Christmas vignette. Thanks for joining us!

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  16. Do you remember that you were one of my VERY FIRST followers? I don't know how you found my 'new blog' but you did and that means we've been blog buddies for over 10 years! Isn't that amazing! I haven't changed much in my style of blogging, I don't think. I still just keep it about what's going on in my every day life. So more hiking means more nature photos! But I still take time to 'poof the pillows'...and when I do I think of you! I love a nice comfortable home filled with the things I enjoy. Hugs, Diane

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  17. Today, I published a Thanksgiving post about gratitude, and I hesitated because I thought, "I'm so late to be posting about Thanksgiving! It's all about Christmas now!" Thanks for sharing "real life" with us today. "Real life" is what caused me to be delayed posting about something I think is really important--practicing gratitude as a family. You're absolutely right...we should all feel free to post whatever is important to us, whenever we're inspired to write about it. So glad we met on the blogosphere!

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  18. My house is far from perfect with THREE dogs and a pig of a daughter, ha ha!! And yet, amidst the clutter and the dog hair and my old girl Lily having more than occasional accidents now, I still find beauty in so many of the simple things in my life. I think that's why I started to blog, to share the simple beauty in everyday life. Thanks for your honesty, my friend - I always love my visits here!

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  19. So spot on. Comparison and Perfection personified are the thief of joy. I like a tidy home but stuff happens. Soon, the college boys will be coming home, things will be disheveled but my heart will be so full! You are just the BEST!

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  20. Such truth Stacy and there is no perfect homes or families or people. I love hearing about what folks are cooking, doing, their families, anything to do with the home and some fashion here and there. That's what my blog is made up of and I think folks enjoy that. Most enjoyable post!

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  21. Not one bit of perfection here. With dogs and people there is always a little mess somewhere and laundry even for two seems to be waiting for me. I love blogs, but you are right that sometimes I miss the beginning days when they weren't quite as perfect and more real life coffee talk. I guess it is up to us to keep that going.

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  22. I've never been able to pull off perfection, haha. I've been blogging about as long as you and we are all so painfully aware of how things have changed and the expectations put upon us to "perform". I had to decide a few years ago whether I was going to be myself or be trying to pump out posts that weren't where my heart was. I love a good DIY, but not if it's not relevant to what I'm currently doing. The hard thing is that so many of the "big blogs" were once where we are and they opted for the "lifestyle brand" thing. just not me or how I want to live my life. I love coming here to see what you're doing. Most of us are very happy with this level or blogging. Lots of times I just skip some "big Reveal" or whatever, too much pressure to keep up. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, many of us feel the same way.

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  23. Ah, the old days of blogging. It was pressure filled because I put pressure on myself but my blog was certainly not perfect. I've tried to remain authentic after all these years. I miss a lot of the old bloggers that have since ceased to blog. I visit some of the big blogs but I don't feel that same connection. Thanks for sharing your coffee talk.

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  24. Stacey,
    Your last photo that shows your real life is still WAY cleaner, organized, and clutter-free than any room in my house on any given day. Right now the dining table is stacked with boxes of items waiting to be priced for the French Country Christmas Event, the entry hall has two outdoor pots of lavender (on torn cardboard pieces) to keep the lavender from tonight's hard freeze, the living room has TWO of my sister's motorized carts she needs to get around, the kitchen has a large stem from the holly tree that was pruned, and let's not talk about my bedroom where one of the cats and I have been recuperating from his life-threatening illness and my stomach virus. But, my breakfast table has the cutest white ceramic Christmas tree cookie jars and winter owl paper placemats. There is a pot of homemade stew on the stovetop and firewood laid in the fireplace for a fire later tonight while we eat our stew and cornbread supper.

    Even so, I love creating pretty vignettes, table settings, outdoor spaces, Christmas decor, etc... and showing pretty pictures of them all. I hope my blog gives readers a place to see pretty things that make their days brighter, and I hope my blog gives my readers some information that will help them.

    The best of both worlds.... a messy, lived-in house, and a blog that inspires.

    Thanks for being a friend.

    Judith

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  25. First of all your Share glass dish is amazing and perfect for you. Your idea of untidy is most people's goal on a great day, but I do love your sentiment. There are a lot of things that are more important than perfect diy projects: family, friends, faith, health, to name a few.

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  26. Love this post, Stacey! There is always lots of life going on here! My daughter had a baby last week, and one of our sons and family are living with us while their house is being built. My decorating will be minimal this year, as so much is packed for moving! I just want to enjoy it all while it lasts...and I didn't even have time to post at all this week! Happy week, sweet friend!

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  27. I loved blogging back then. Not everyone thought they were experts; we just shared our lives and our passions. I post when I have time now and a few of my buddies visit and that’s fine with me. I love visiting you. Your new home is gorgeous and your posts are authentic. Happy Thanksgiving,Stacey!! Zenda

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  28. Stacey, I love that you speak from your heart. My house isn't perfect either. As I write I have a stack of dishes sitting on the countertop. Normally, they would be in the dishwasher, but I forgot to turn the dark thing on. My butler's pantry has mile high stacks of magazines I can't seem to have time to read. Since I only started blogging 3 years ago and never even saw a blog until 3 1/2 years ago, I can't relate to the old days, but I can imagine the enormous changes you've seen. Like so many things, we go from one extreme to the other. Maybe we should all slow down and enjoy what's real around us. Thank you for your honest reflections. Made me think.

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  29. So true!! The good ol days of blogging were a bit more relaxed and I still have some great friendships that were formed back then...I love the sharing of ideas and crafts - some are so darn clever!!

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  30. Thanks for always offering a refreshing and real space in the blog world. Love the last photo!

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  31. Love the post, Stacey! You have always come across as real and genuine which is so nice. As you know, I have been blogging since only May of this year, mostly about reinvention over age 50 which touches on several categories including DIY, fashion, book reviews, etc., and connecting with other women. You were and are such a help to me since it can feel overwhelming as I narrow my focus and take regular breaks with it to fine tune the site as well as my voice which I want to be helpful and authentic. Last year at this very moment I was sewing buffalo check drapes, pillows and constructing and painting a huge rustic clock to convert our look to farmhouse. I love it and now we are working toward downsizing in the next year or two. Yes, things keep changing quickly now! I am having my morning coffee with you right now, my favorite time of day - thank you for getting me off to a happy start today - Talk soon friend :)

    Lori Jo - 50 With Flair

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  32. Hi Stacey: Thank you for your post today. I feel this way often with blogging. My blog pics never compare to other bloggers and my home is never perfect! But, there is love in my home and that is what counts! And I blog with love and that is what counts, also! I don't always leave a comment but I follow your blog and enjoy it so much! Ten years blogging-wow-I'm almost to year four.

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  33. Great post Stacey! There is no way I or my cottage and gardens is perfect. I can become a tad depressed sometimes looking at all of the perfectness that is portrayed in blogland. I can also become inspired to get up off my 'fanny' and do things, and have been encouraged so much through my 10 years of blogging.

    I have a young friend from church coming over Thursday morning for a visit and this is a big deal for me. Out of my comfort zone of having people over, but it is something I want to do. My cottage has unfinished/ongoing projects that may or may not get done in this life, it is not modern, but it is my little haven and it is filled with love and happy memories of the years my dear husband and I had together here.

    I just read a great little book "Just Open the Door" by Jen Schmidt. Here is a line from her book. "Comparison sneaks up like a thief and attempts to rob us of all joy, especially when it pertains to things as personal as our home." If I 'wait' until my home is 'perfect' I'll never invite anyone over.

    Life is an adventure with new challenges each and every day. We can choose joy & contentment or dwell in negativity. I choose, to the best I can, joy and contentment.

    Thank you for the inspiration you are. Happy November to you ~ FlowerLady

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  34. I just made a comment to another blogging friend about wanting to live in our homes instead of putting them on the runway. Enough said. Now, if I could just get those gates and that garage door jamb fixed before winter, I'd be a happy camper. Functional, not perfect. Works for me.

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  35. I think that the pressure to be perfect is all too real. I've even thought about throwing in the blogging towel a few times lately. Seems like just when I think i've figured it out, the game changes. Or my photos aren't what they should be etc. Not to mention throw in every day life. However, I remember the wonderful friendships that I've made as a blogger and I know that I wouldn't have "met" those wonderful people anywhere other than blogging. So blessed!

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  36. This post has struck a chord with all of us, blogger and non-bloggers alike. If you were to walk into a neighbor's home for coffee and conversation, most likely her home would not be perfectly styled and clean beyond everyday living. As a person who does not do much (if any) decorating for holidays, it's easy to feel intimidated and envious of home full of sparkling lights and pretty colors. Enjoy your day!

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  37. I love all of what you said and that is why i follow you cause, your real. If i drop in on someone i don't expect to see a perfect house, and they better expect the same from me. I "LIVE" here and it should look that way. Have a great and happy day.

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  38. Great post! My home is not perfect and if you stopped by on a whim, you would see that. I am not company ready at all! I can spruce it up when needed but on a regular basis, we LIVE here! I like to look at the blogs that promote high end perfection but I will never be that so if I can get one idea from them, that's good. I love the HGTV homes, but they are not me. Thanks for sharing. I would love to sit with you and chat over coffee!

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  39. Amen my friend. As I said in post recently, I don't decorate for my blog. I have decorated our home since we have been married. I'm not a stager. I like being real. I think that's what people should be. I started blogging 6 years ago and I see how much has changed. Anytime you just want to chat I'm your girl

    Cindy

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  40. Hi Stacey, oh I remember six years ago when I started blogging and it seemed so much easier in a way than like you said today. I made a mistake today trying to fix up an old blog post and instead I posted it again today. Opps I don't know what I did wrong but we are not perfect but we try to be perfect as I should have left that blog post alone. I cringe at some of my old blog posts. LOL. I really enjoyed this blog post today and I love all of your Christmas things displayed in the kitchen.
    Hope you have a nice day and week. It's the count down to the holidays! LOL.
    Julie xo

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  41. Hello, Stacey,
    My home is not perfect, nor do I want it to be! I want it to reflect me and who I am, a down to earth country born and raised 60+ fellow Texan. My home is nice and homey, not perfectly styled with expensive furniture or doodads,and we're happy with that. I have my devotional book and my Bible sitting on the family room table by my recliner where I can grab them at any moment and read them. Our home is warm and inviting, down to earth and welcoming. Our home does not put on airs nor do we. I enjoy looking at blogs for good recipes and maybe some ideas of how to make a wreath or a flower arrangement, which is what I enjoy doing. I don't care that my home is not "runway" material as one of the ladies commented. I love your blog and your attitude; you're real and humble and that's what draws us to your blog! God bless you, Stacey.

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  42. Perfect is boring...I'm so glad your not boring Stacey. (smile)
    Have a wonderful week sweet friend.

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  43. Hello Stacey! Love your post! Coffee always gets my attention! Ha-ha! I think I've only been blogging about five years not as long as you. I can tell you my home is definitely not perfect! I'm an empty-nester with no pets! Lol! I started my blog is because I really had a passion for people like me that live in a mobile home and wanted to encourage that mobile home living can be just as nice as any home. My grammar is not the best but I'm learning! I don't worry about it too much and try to have fun with blogging! We are having my husband's family over for Thanksgiving and NO I haven't started shopping for Christmas. ;) wishing you and your family a Happy Thanksgiving!

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  44. Hi there dear girl...
    I think there is an almighty movement in the world today to steal our joy. Everything is so fast paced and out of hand, that we cannot just sit back, be thankful and enjoy what we have and where we are! It seems to be push, push, push for more, more, more.
    I am sad to think of everyone who is so gung-ho Christmas, that they totally miss the season of Thanksgiving....and truth to tell, they probably miss what Christmas really is!!
    So sad!!
    Hugs to you and I am VERY thankful for your time, talent and most especially your friendship!
    Blessings,
    J

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  45. This is great - I don't even have a traditional home right now so perfection is far from my table of grace. The sink is full of dishes, laundry is actually done but there's a new pile of clothes that needs picking up and placed in the correct space.

    But you know what I'll do instead? Head outdoors to smell the sweetness of nature because that's where it's at.

    Perfection awaits us in heaven and trying to blast it on earth is simply a waste. Real life cannot be staged because it just happens, unfolds so we can grow.
    It's much better to do your best and be happy with the results because you made the effort.

    This Thanksgiving for the first time we're going non- traditional and grilling steaks. Just the two of us and I can hardly wait. Christmas we haven't even figured out yet but I know it will be stress free and whatever comes our way will be filled with a lot of heart.

    I also remember what blogging was about before so many (including myself) turned it into a business. It was simple and friendship filled with the air with goodness.

    Glad I stopped by and hope your holidays are great!



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  46. Stacey, I love this post! You are so right! I am definitely not perfect. In fact, things lately have been a total mess! I'm with you, I would rather enjoy my family during the holidays. I have just been blogging for a little over two years, and it can be overwhelming trying to measure up to everyone else. I have been really thinking a lot about this lately. It's crazy trying to keep up, and my most important responsibility is to be a good wife and mother. I hope that you enjoy your holidays!!! Thanks for this post!

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  47. Sometimes I feel silly because my blog posts are almost all "around the house" or "this and that" lately. But a lot of people tell me those are their favorite posts...just simple ones about family, holiday decorating, gardening or what we had for dinner. It's nice to slow down and enjoy being in the moment, especially this time of year. Happy holidays!

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  48. Stacey, first of all that pic of your house looks perfect compared to mine lol....but I remember those blogging years. What I loved about it was that it felt like I was really visiting with friends I had made and we chatted about common interest. I loved reading what "my friends" ate for dinner, or what their day to day life was about. When blogging turned into business it changed so so so many things!!!

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