How to Stay Calm About the Holidays

Did you notice the radio silence here for the last few days? 

Let me explain...when I turned on my computer the day after Halloween and world
had switched to Christmas, I was a little freaked out.

As in roadblock.....brain freeze....stress!

Is it just me? :)

So because my mom says I'm very bossy, I've devised a plan to stay calm and thought 
maybe it will help you too.

1. Let's soak up November!
 Take a blanket outside and sit with your coffee or hot chocolate. 
 Listen to and look at the changes in nature. 
The sounds, the smells, the light are all changing and it's beautiful out there.

2. Are you a list maker? I am!
 While we are enjoying our hot chocolate or coffee outside it’s ok to make a list. Right?
 I’m going to make a shopping list for holiday groceries, maybe a few things we need around the house, and of course, Christmas. I'm not going to stress though...nope!

3.   I’m giving my house a good scrub this month.
That’s not a very glamorous thing to do but it sure makes me feel better and remember we are talking about how to stay calm. Company will come soon and I want to be ready without feeling anxious about the condition of the bathrooms. Besides I like to clean my house. Oh, don't forget a yummy candle to make the house smell good and some good music on Pandora.

4.  Let's count our blessings and celebrating Thanksgiving!
There's not a day that passes that I don't realize how blessed we are.
Whether you consider it good luck, hard work, or something divine, 
take the time to realize your blessings.
Count them one by one and you will feel more calm.
I promise.

5. When it feels right, let Christmas wriggle in but don't feel behind every day.
Play some good music, bake something yummy,  and know that it's all really ok.
You've got your list. You've relaxed a little. You've got this sister!

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  1. I love this Stacey.

    I have already seen tons of posts about Christmas. I'm just not ready for it way!

    November is my favorite month and I surely want to enjoy every moment of it and Thanksgiving.


  2. #1 Check, we are having a week of indian summer here in Michigan, temps in the low 70's and sunshine. I am spending lots of time outdoors just soaking it in.
    #2 Check, I always make lists, no matter what the weather. I just can't stop.
    #3 Check! With this great weather I recognize my last chance to get some touch up painting and cleaning done that I played hookey on this summer. Some of the windows had trim that was a little rough, re-oiling the butcher block kitchen counter in preparation for all that holiday baking, and just general cleaning so I don't have to look at the dirt while I'm trapped in the house this winter.
    #4 Check. Always
    #5 Check! I'm usually dragging my feet about Christmas this time of year, but last year, for the first time, I decorated all during the month of November and it was so much easier than cramming it in to those weeks after Thanksgiving. I went shopping today and actually smiled at all the decorations in the store. I'm giving myself the time I need to prepare for the festivities this month and next.
    Good advice Stacey!

  3. my thoughts too, Stacey, I don't want to rush thru this wonderful month!

  4. This is spot on perfect. Yes, I think we should have the national holiday of Thanksgiving in early October, during harvest season - giving us more time to prepare for the holidays.....but like everything secular each year seems less and less about "good and thankful" and more about "evil and less religious."

    I love this post and your beautiful pictures, because you are right - we need to savor the season and not rush Christmas. I know I am not going to - no way.

    Thanks, I needed this. It's 74 degrees and blue and sunny, going outside for tea time right now and unplugging. : - )

  5. I am sooooo with you! It seems like every holiday and or season gets rushed in blogland, the stores and magazines. I am enjoying my November and don't plan on doing one Christmas thing until after Thanksgiving.

  6. This is a great reminder! I was just stressing this morning about some big cleaning jobs I need to do before the holidays (like cleaning my blinds) then I decided to just do one room a day and not stress. :)

  7. Love this! I want to take November slow and easy too. Definitely get some cleaning done. I love lists and I need to get started on my Christmas one but not till I've had hot chocolate... And smores by the campfire :-)

  8. Great post, Stacey! After I saw a few bloggers posting Christmas projects last week, and one of my close friends put up three of her Christmas trees Saturday, I had a moment of panic, too! LOL! Glad to know I'm not alone! Thanks for the tips for taking a breather and handling the stress! :) ~Rhonda

  9. Stacey, your post was perfect for my state of mind! I'm going to follow your suggestions. I am a total list maker--it's the only reason I'm (barely) getting through the One Room Challenge. I'm going to get that done and my daughter's birthday party and then greet Christmas with a clear mind!

  10. Oh yes, I'm going to enjoy this blessed month as well. I like your idea about relaxing outside and enjoying the change of seasons. I would love a house cleaned from top to bottom too but that one may not happen with my schedule so I may have to settle for mostly cleaned. LOL!

  11. I painted something Christmas themed this weekend. Of course, I had to try it in the place I plan to use it to see how it's going to look. My husband walked into the room (he did admire it first-smart guy) and asked if we are going to be the people who put up Christmas in November now.
    No way. No Christmas before Thanksgiving for me!

  12. Great advice! Wish we didn't push the seasons so much but Christmas is EVERYWHERE! You are so right about enjoying this beautiful season before we rush into the next.
    PS Lists are good.

  13. I'm all for some cleaning, good baking smells, and appreciating our blessings. November is a great month.

  14. I'm with you! I want to savor the warm, soft tones of autumn. A thankful heart, a cozy throw, and a cup of tea or coffee while I reflect sounds perfect to me.
    Honestly I don't stress out over the holidays. We keep things simple here, and I'm happy to do so.
    Great post!

  15. Why oh why do we have to rush everything? Christmas stuff in August? Really? And by the time December rolls around I'm tired of Christmas carols. I guess I sound like a Scrooge, huh?

  16. Oh goodness, I agree with you completely, except this year!
    I am pushing through November so we can get in that new home.
    I did notice that you were silent, glad to have you back!

  17. That's the right attitude! The other night my husband and I sat on the porch. It was November! I am excited for Christmas this year, but I am also enjoying this pretty fall! Glad for the reminders.

  18. Words of wisdom here! I am already behind on starting my Christmas cookies but I am not going to stress. I don't need that many anymore anyways! I have a good start on my gift shopping so I can coast through!

  19. It's hard to think ahead to Christmas when it's 70 degrees and sunny in the mountains today!! Great post Stacey! It's so important to take time to cherish the beauty in each and every day!

  20. Haha! Yes, Halloween at night, Christmas in the morning! No, no, no. I am not there yet. I am trying to live in the moment and enjoy what's in front of me. I am thinking Thanksgiving, as well. Bring on the turkeys!

  21. Great post, I am taking time to give my home a good fall cleaning too. Hoeing out the closets and under the beds...letting go of some stuff that is weighing me down. I also did myself a huge favor and actually cancelled a big Annual Christmas party that has grown beyond ok. I was working far to hard to top last year and realized it wasn't fun anymore. Maybe next year I can get a better perspective and just enjoy it again

  22. Stacey, a beautiful post, and a great reminder to be in the present. These days, living in the present is even more important than ever. Savoring little moments in the day, reflecting on blessings. Yes! Making lists, and remembering that Christmas is more about memories with family and friends, that is something I am refining year after year. I am rethinking Christmas dinner to make it less formal and a whole lot more fun this year. And making many lists. 😊

  23. November is a favorite month. I love the crisp, cool days, sweaters, changing leaves without the cold of winter. Thanks for the reminder!

  24. November is a favorite month. I love the crisp, cool days, sweaters, changing leaves without the cold of winter. Thanks for the reminder!

  25. Hi Stacey! Oh, gosh... I love that framed artwork on your mantle of the boy and the dog. It totally steals my heart away... xox

  26. thanks for the tips! I definitely try to keep my apartment clean and pace myself with the holiday shopping so it doesn't feel overwhelming!

  27. I so agree with the first. Time seems to go to fast anymore for me. This year the holidays will be hectic. Daughter may have to work on them, she works for the PO. So not sure whose house or what day we will be celebrating.

  28. I love November, too, Stacey...not sure about bringing a blanket outside--my neighbors would think I'm crazier than they already do!

    A deep cleaning is good as it prepares us for bringing out those holiday decoration without having to work around them.

    Jane x

  29. This post is just what I need. I keep promising myself to keep it simple but always take on to much or go crazy with the details and then wonder at the stress of it all :-)
    I do like a clean and tidy house, it gives a wonderful feeling of being in control.

  30. I'm not freakin' out...I'm not freakin' out....that's what I keep telling myself over and over...LOL. I don't let the stores bully me or push me around...I want to savor November as well and want to have the time to spend with family and my own pace. Now, that doesn't stop me from picking up the occasional odd gift or decoration if I see something, but I'm standing firm. Christmas will not come out until after Thanksgiving! :-)

  31. I love this wonderful reminder! Thank you so much.

    I just added the darling Texas Blog Hop to my sidebar. Great work!

  32. Love this, Stacey! When you have a minute, check my blog post today. :)


  33. I'm a huge lover of the holidays, so I have the opposite reaction as you when I see Christmas coming at me full force! But I, too, am a firm believer in great smelling candles and Pandora!

    Thanks so much for joining the Alder Collective Link-Up! Pinning this and we hope to see you again next week!

  34. Hi Stacey! Oh, this was so good to read! I love your thoughts and need to try to use them! Hope you have a nice weekend and I always love when you pop in to see me.
    Be a sweetie,
    Shelia ;)

  35. I like all your advice...
    I am not a list maker...Mr. Sweet does that.
    I am having a huge Bunco party here this coming Wed....been cleaning house like mad...
    All our family will be here for Thanksgiving..about 22 people and boyfriends...
    About to start cooking, baking and freezing...
    My tree goes up the day after Thanksgiving...more house every single minute of Nov and Dec...
    Gotta get Christmas post ready for Dec 8....
    going to get nails done today...
    TAKING SAT AND SUN OFF...gotta catch my breath and hit the floor running this coming Monday.

  36. Putting my list to paper always frees up my mind for everyday moments otherwise missed. Thanks for the reminder.

  37. Hi Stacey, Love this and so well said!! I too make a list, sometime it changes or takes time to finish, but it helps me focus on what needs to get done. I usually begin to decorate the day after Thanksgiving so I can give Thanksgiving it's due! It's become a tradition of sorts. The cleaning is on going around here. LOL

  38. Hi Stacey,
    This was such a great list. I try so hard not to get stressed over the holidays and I find that getting everything done early really helps me with that.
    Being a Canadian who now lives in the US, I found it really hard to get used to Thanksgiving in November, when in Canada Thanksgiving is in October before Halloween...and because I love Christmas so much once Halloween is over I am ready for Christmas and ready for the decorations.
    I do think though that some people put too much stress on themselves to live up to something that Christmas was never intended to be about. For me, there is just something about an old fashioned Christmas that keeps everything in perspective for me.

  39. Sweet vignettes! Love the mantle idea. Have a wonderful week, Lynn

  40. Hi Stacey, thanks for your suggestions. They are good ones and we all need to be reminded to stay grounded during this crazy time. And what is it about cleaning, I find it very calming and grounding, especially with my Pandora station on.
    Enjoy November, Lynn

  41. Want a good laugh? I'm listening to Christmas music right now LOL I can't help it! I've been doing that for years so it puts me in the mood for shopping.

    I get what you mean though :)



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