Accentuate the Positive This Holiday Season


Good morning and Happy Monday. Today my friend Jemma and I are beginning the holiday season PERK Project. Our goal is to put more  Positive*Encouraging*Real*Kindness into the world with your help. We will focus each week on a different attribute but of course, they do overlap. Remember we are not professionals and we want your input.




This week are focusing on Positive  thoughts, words, and actions. Let's start with a song because music makes everything better... Accentuate the Positive or if you are ready for Christmas music, how about Carol of the Bells? (right click on highlighted words to open in a new window)

When it comes to living in a positive way our thoughts come first. Thoughts before actions, right?  I'm usually a pretty positive person but not always. If you really knew me, you'd know that I can be overwhelmed. I can get as mad as a hornet. But being positive and happy is what I shoot for every single day.

Here are some of my tricks for feeling positive during the holidays and throughout the year.

1. Coffee. It's a small thing but I love coffee very much. Every morning I'm happy to wake up and realize I get to have coffee again. Did you catch the spin on those words? I get to! Woohoo! Later this week I get to unpack my Christmas dishes and drink coffee from those ol' Santa cups that have great memories attached. Just the thought puts a smile on my face.

2.  I love to open the shutters bright and early and say, "Good morning God" or "Thank you God."  Sometimes I say it out loud but most of the time it's in my mind. Those three words are like a prayer to me and they make me feel happy.

3. Make a list for the day and work on what needs to be accomplished.  It's ok if you don't finish everything on your list! Be proud that you did some of it and know that tomorrow will come. The days from now through New Year's Eve are such a race...what's on your list that you can remove? Just a thought. :)

4.  Appreciate nature. Try not to spend the whole day inside. It's amazing when you go outside and smell the fresh air, hear the birds, and feel the breeze. Troubles are lifted away even if it's only for a moment. Just a walk to the mailbox or a quick walk with the dog can turn a negative attitude into a positive one for me.  Is it extremely cold where you are this time of year? Put a bird feeder outside your window and watch the action from the warmth of your home. They will make you smile.

5. Reach out! I remember when we used to get so excited about the phone ringing and we'd run to answer it. What happened to that? Now we all text which is good too but nothing replaces a nice voice on the other end of the phone. I try to call someone at least once a day. How do you reach out to others?

6. Counting my blessings. I do count my blessings all the time. We have everything we need. We have family and friends. We live in America. The list can go on and on. There are things I'd like to have but there's nothing I need.  If you are in a position where you don't have much money you might enjoy this post shared at The Prudent Homemaker - Ten Ways to Find Joy in Your Life When You Don't Have a Penny to Spare.  Brandy is a smart woman!


7. Get dressed and put on your makeup. There I said it! You want to look good, right girls? What if the Publisher's Clearinghouse comes to the door or better yet...what if Michael Buble' just happens to be passing through your neighborhood and smells cookies baking and stops?! I'm making light of this but truly, I feel more positive and motivated when I'm dressed for the day. Usually it's just jeans and a cute top but I get dressed faithfully. It's sweater weather! How about jeans and boots with a pretty sweater? You can't go wrong with that combo. :)

8.  Have something to look forward to. I love it when there's something fun on the calendar that I can look forward to. I'm not talking about vacations or anything big and expensive.  Having lunch with a friend, getting a haircut or other small things can go on the calendar and be something wonderful to look forward to.  I have a friend who moved to New York and a few times a year we "have coffee" on the phone. We make this a priority by putting it on our calendars.  I love that time and it keeps us connected.

This Room at the Top of the Stairs

On the other hand, guard your time.  Of course this time of year the list can be too long and the calendar can be too crowded...and that's not a good feeling. If necessary, take extra care not to overextend your time.  You don't have to attend every holiday concert or event.  Choose what is most important to you and your family so you can soak up the fun of the season without feeling stressed.  You just might find more joy by staying home and having a cup of hot chocolate together.

9. Do something for someone else. It's not hard for me to find someone who needs something. My husband is right here in the house and he might need help. Our two sons are grown but they still need us.  Sometimes the needs of someone else might mean I have to change my own plans and that can be aggravating but I choose to remember that I'm lucky to be able to help. I am blessed to have these people.

You may want to reach outside of your home to do for someone else. How about a neighbor or a community organization? Even if leaving the house is not an option for you, you can write letters to friends and family. You can write letters to soldiers. You can email or write hospitalized children. When you do for someone else you will feel more warm and positive inside. I promise.



10. Try! Try to promote positive feelings within yourself and the world. Say good things to yourself. Say good things to others. Try to put a stop to the snowball effect of negative thoughts, words, and actions. Be aware of your thoughts and change them when you are off course.

Accentuate the positive.

My little list is insignificant compared to all the ideas that can be shared within a community of people who practice positive*encouraging*real*kindness.   I would love to hear your ideas! Please share in the comments or by email (stacey@poofingthepillows.com) and remember that you might be helping someone else who reads your words. We'll be featuring some of your ideas here and on social media.

We look forward to the conversation with you. Be sure to pop over to At Home With Jemma  to see what she has to say and hear about a give away.



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30 comments

Pam Richardson said...

Stacey, I enjoyed reading your thoughts and your list as I am drinking my coffee which is priority first thing every morning! Something I began several years ago is a daily text to my family and some ladies that I mentor of a scripture and just a word of encouragement! It is so easy and they all look forward to receiving my morning message!

Katie Clooney said...

Great post, Stacey. I agree with you on the coffee and makeup thing. Hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

Penny from Enjoying The Simple Things said...

Now this was a positively beautiful way to start my day! I am a positive person, most of the time.

Jemma@athomewithjemma said...

Good Morning Lovely Friend,
How blessed I am to have you as my neighbor too! I am thinking of you today as you begin your trip to be with your son for Thanksgiving. What sweet memories you will be making and what a beautiful day to travel.
Lovely ideas you have shared with us today and if we all just pick one to incorporate into our life, just think what a difference that would make!
Jemma

Tammy Lagaly said...

Stacey,
A great day starts with morning rituals! I so agree with you about getting up and getting dressed. Even when I was going through Chemo, I got up, showered and put on a little makeup to start the day. ( although some days it was just lounging PJ's and moisturizer) I don't drink coffee, but I can't function without my hot tea! I also ALWAYS make my bed and spend a few minutes picking up the house if it needs it. These little things make me feel like I'm ready to take on the day. One thing I started lately, when something upsets me - getting cut off driving my car, rude people etc - I just repeat "10 seconds" to myself. It reminds me that why let the 10 tiny seconds that I was irritated ruin a day filled with thousands of seconds? Thank you so much for sharing, it was a great reminder of what this wondrous season is all about and why we should be doing it year round!

Andrea Nine said...

I loved this. I thank our Lord and Savior everyday. I try to find things and ways to shine positivity. You are so good at doing this and it is just an honor to know you! Have a blessed start to your Thanksgiving week!

Shannon @ Belle Bleu Interiors said...

Stacey, I really enjoyed reading this post this morning. Every day I count my blessings and think of some way to help someone. Daily, I always try to pay someone a kind compliment. A little kindness and a smile can go a long way to making someone else feel better. I hope that you have a happy and blessed day!

Linda @ Life and Linda said...

Wonderful post Stacey. I start my day with coffee. I definitely believe in dressing cute and wearing makeup and my hair done. I am always thinking of helping others as I go through life. Have a blessed Thanksgiving.

Eilis said...

Thanks for the lovely positive inspiration this morning. I haven't done this yet, but a woman in Bible study recently shared that she keeps a ten dollar gift card to a place like Subway in her car. When she is driving in the city and sees someone walking who looks down, she gives them the gift card and a few encouraging words. She said it is amazing to see someone's face light up.

Linda @ Itsy Bits And Pieces said...

This post made my smile...definitely a positive way to start my day. Now...I get to have my coffee! Wishing you a Happy Thanksgiving, Stacey!

AnnMarie aka Vintage Junkie aka NaNa said...

I love all of your tips Stacey! They are realistic and somewhat easy to do. Perfect inspiration for the beginning of a busy season.

Junkchiccottage said...

This post is positive and a great way to start today. Thank you for sharing all these positive things. Love all the tips. This is a great read as we begin into the busiest time of the year. Happy week and Happy Thanksgiving. Thank you for sharing your blog friendship. Enjoy all the blessings the day brings.
xoxo
Kris

Debbie - Mountain Mama said...

This is a wonderful list and a great project, Stacey! The holidays can be overwhelming at times, and I often feel it since I work full time. Often I have only Christmas day off, and head right back to work the day after....it's tough, but I'm lucky to have a job that I like, only 2 miles from home. I will try to remember that in the mornings when I really just want to stay home in my cozy house. Thanks for your positive vibes!! Happy Thanksgiving, my friend!

Simply LKJ said...

Such a wonderful and uplifting post Stacey. I too love starting my day with a cup of fresh brewed coffee. And yes, even when my girls were little I felt more prepared to tackle the day if I took a little bit of time for myself, getting dressed and applying even a wee bit of makeup. I too love starting my day with Proverbs 31 devotionals. It seems each comes just when I need to hear a specific message.

The Sketchy Reader said...

I LOVE this post, Miss Stacey! I must needs print it out and stick it on the fridge for me and everyone else in my little world to read!

I like your morning routine....coffee and God.

I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving!!! I'm blessed to have you as a bloggy friend!

xo,
RJ

~Lavender Dreamer~ said...

I'm going to write these points down in my journal tonight. I feel the same way about most everything you've mentioned...but need a reminder on some of them. I don't talk on the phone or stay in contact as much as I should with those I'm close to. I always start my day with a short prayer and I get dressed and put my make up on...every day. It makes me feel better and I'm ready to GO...at a moment's notice. You've started this at the perfect time for me. I need some reinforcement! Hugs, Diane

Celestina Marie said...

Hi Stacey, sure enjoyed this positive post and all your tips and encouragement. So many of your points I do as well and find them so uplifting especially helping others and lending encouraging words when another may need to hear. Thank you for sharing and making perk something for us all to work on each and everyday. Wishing you and your sweet family a very Happy Thanksgiving xo

Cindy Richter said...

I absolutely loved this post. The first thing I do (after going to the bathroom of course) is make my bed and open the blinds. I feel as though the room looks so much better. And I know this sounds weird but I often sing Rise and Shine and give God the glory glory... I can't help but be thankful and happy throughout the day when I have that song stuck in my head.

Great post and I look forward to the others!

Carol Lander said...

I love this idea that you and Joyce are doing and I love your thoughts and reflections. Makes me stop and think for awhile instead of running around crazy. Every morning the first thing I say when I open the shutters is "It's a beautiful, gorgeous, glorious day. This is the day that the Lord hath made. Let us rejoice and be glad." My dog thinks I'm crazy, but I know God is happy that I acknowledge His creation and presence in our world.

Cecilia said...

I really enjoyed your thoughts on positive thoughts. Coffee is my day starter too. One more thing that helps me face my day positively is making my bed in the morning. It just makes my room look tidy and keeps me from feeling stressed. :)

Jann Olson said...

This is such a great idea! I love all of it. I am a true believer of getting dressed and getting ready to tackle the day. And a positive attitude is so important! My mom taught me that when I was very young. :)
hugs,
Jann

Jeanie said...

I have a bad reputation for being overly positive. You'd think this would be a good thing but it really ticks some people off, this lemons-into-lemonade thing. But my favorite tips are 1) Remember, someone is always worse off than you are. If you can't help directly, at least be grateful 2) Being there matters. Both being there for someone else and having someone there for me. What goes 'round, comes 'round. 3) Snuggle with a pet. My day is always better after snug and a purr with Lizzie. 4) Send mail. A real letter or a card, not just an e-version. 5) Monitor calls. You are not required to answer solicitations, junk calls or spam. You don't have to talk at that moment to anyone if you are having a bad day, just need peace and quiet, whatever. You can call them back.

And gratitude. Biggest thing ever.

toni1965 said...

So many great ideas for staying positive. If we can quiet ourselves and focus only on positive this holiday season will be a breeze. Visiting from Blogging 50 Linky party :)

pugsmom said...

This is an emotional post and I'm so glad I took the time to read it. There are times in life when it's really hard to remember that we can make our world more positive. Something as simple as making my bed or my first cup of coffee can make a huge difference. Your commenter who said she says, "10 seconds" was brilliant. I have to tell you I cried through this post and all the comments, but I feel so encouraged now. Thank you for this. Sandra

Kim said...

This is a wonderful post, Stacey! I love all of your thoughts. Music is my get happy and positive quick fix. I am listening to your recommended song right now. Great rendition. I put it on and it gets me moving, smiling, thinking and happy! Speaking of, Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours. xoxo

VintageSouthernPicks said...

Stacey, what a great post! So positive! You're right about all your points b/c I'm already starting to fret. It's OK if we don't get it all done. I love that. It's OK if we say no to some things. Go outside. Listen to music. All such positives.
Pinned. Visiting from BF group tonight.

Sandy said...

Your list is full of wonderful advice. I loved the whole list. I make it a point to get outside everyday as that really helps the mood. Getting dressed and the make up thing is a good one too. I have had to add to my list this year, turning off the TV. It is mind numbing. I am listening to music more. I got an Alexa for my birthday. At first I wasn't sure I would use it, but I have loved how easily I can listen to music.

Melanie said...

stacey, this was an awesome reminder for me to focus on right before the Holidays began! It's already helping! thanks for the positive vibes!

michelle meyer said...

Beautiful post and a great reminder to look beyond ourselves and share a bit of happiness with others.

Andrea at Opulent Cottage said...

Such a sweet post! Another reminder of why I adore you so much! xoxo!!