Fantastic Fifties

Good morning! Today I'm joining a group of bloggers with whom I'm very happy to be associated. You see we all have something very special in common - we are all 50 or more years old and we are sharing thoughts on that subject.

Hello I'm Stacey and I'm 54 years old.  I began writing Poofing the Pillows 9 years ago! That's a lot of time in a chair when you add it all up but I'm still here partly because blogging has changed in ways that are wild, wonderful, and challenging  - much like my body and hairstyles have changed.


In the beginning of Poofing the Pillows, blogging was basically a conversation between fellow bloggers sharing our love of home and decorating. It was a simple time...so simple that if you went way back on this blog you might find clip art instead of carefully taken photographs. I shared grainy, yellowish pictures of my dogs, my home, my sons, and anything else that popped into my head at the time. Those were the days! Blogging is much more sophisticated now but thankfully, many of the same readers are still here and I thank you! You all are a blessing to me and I can call many of you real life friends.  Friends who talk over coffee.


Let's talk about this stage of life a little bit...

Not so long ago, I felt like my husband and I were just starting out. That feeling went on for years and it seemed like we had so much to look forward to. We had our boys and all of their activities, we had each of our families, our jobs, great friends, etc.

The thing is that those wonderful parts of life all happen while time is quietly ticking by.

Suddenly my boys were grown young men and life offered new waters to navigate. Suddenly Paul and I had been married almost 30 years! One day I woke up and realized that I was still talking to girls (now the same age as my sons) about having babies because isn't that one of the best things in life? And I realized that by golly, they probably thought I was relaying my stone age experiences!  I'll be truthful and tell you that the day I realized those girls probably did not want to discuss childbirth with me was a turning point! Goofy, I know, but I suddenly felt much older and much less like we were starting out.

At the risk of sounding cliche', I was feeling like life and the great learning curve was passing me by. Have you ever felt that way? Please say yes.

There are times that we all get bummed but I'm an optimist and this is what I know at this stage:



We must to continue to learn!

I don't mean we have to enroll in a class for a grade but if that's something you want to do then GO GIRL! I've been thinking about the things I'd like to learn at this stage of life. Photography, better gardening practices, how to make a beautiful pie crust, sewing, and lots more about blogging are all on my list of things to learn. I'd like to learn more about finances, history, influential women, and the possibility of raising pumpkins.  With no small children to care for I have more time for those things. How about you? Don't you find that you have more time for your own pursuits? There are places to go and things to do - have you figured out what's next?

On the bookshelf below you will see a book written by my dad and a book written by my father-in-law. They both pursued writing books at a time when others might have considered that ship sailed. My mother-in-law is in her 70's and is a Bible scholar. One of my best friends just became our school district's counseling coordinator and she's 54. Another friend is pursuing a television career.

There is no end to the timeline for learning and achieving if the desire is there.


This is not a book I'm writing; this is a blog about things that bring me joy and maybe you too. This is a blog about home and family, gardening and cooking, encouraging others, decorating and creating a soft place to land. This is a blog about the things that really matter to me and I consider this an accomplishment.

Through this blogging hobby of mine, I've learned how to do many new things and met many new people. I've stretched w.a.y. out of my comfort zone to attend a blogging conference. I've dipped my toes into the sea of computer codes. I've learned to work a DSLR camera just a little. I've learned that many life lessons are valid and important but do not come from a university. I've learned that with age comes a different kind of relevance and power. Hey, I've learned that other people want to know how to build a pond in their backyard and we can help them.




I'm rambling but with a point to make -

We are important at every age if we choose to be.

Our roles change and our goals do too but we have so much to look forward to.

I'm here cheering you on friend!

Please share your thoughts in the comments or by emailing me at stacey@poofingthepillows.com. Be sure an visit my smart blogging buddies. :)





62 comments

Andrea Nine said...

You and your blog bring me joy dear lady! And yes, life often feels lime its passing me by but I hold onto hope. Hope and like you said so much to look forward to! This transition going the empty nest thing has been difficult but blogging and reading posts like this make it a little lighter and joyful especially because so many other ladies can relate! Love you, love your writing and your precious heart!

Calypso In The Country said...

I always enjoy your blog, Stacey and I loved reading your perspective on age. My husband and I waited until our late 30s to start our family so my kids are only 11 and 13 now. I want to stay young for them and for me so I think it's important to stay active and be constantly learning. There really is so much to experience in life - at every age! Great post!
Shelley

Jeanie said...

Love this so much, my friend. I didn't know you until two or three years ago so I don't remember your early blog days but I suspect they were like mine. Posts different, less "skillfully" presented. But very real. Like you, my early posts connected me to bloggers who became real friends and that has only continued.

My life has been better than it has ever been before in the past few years -- and I'm older than you! I'm learning every day and simply do not have enough hours to max out the time! And while that is frustrating at times, it is always so very, very good! Here's to more good years of learning, loving, laughing and joy!

Katie Clooney said...

Great blog Stacey! I feel like I've gotten to know you a little better. Do you want a little tidbit of info from an old geezer such as myself? The fifties will never feel as sweet as the day you enter your sixties! Have a great week!

Penny from Enjoying The Simple Things said...

Great post Stacey! I am going to be 64 next month and I still feel like I did when I was in my mid 40's. That is when I retired early and started dabbling in creative things, like mosaics, painting furniture growing a veggie garden etc. I love this time in my life where I have the freedom to do what ever I want.

laura@notatrophywife.com said...

What a great post. As our nest starts to thin out my husband and I are looking to fill our time with new adventures and interest. Just returned from a mother/son trip to NYC! It was a bucket list for me with my youngest. Had a blast.. saw a few celebrities. My son had no clue who George Hamilton was but he walked right past us! Funny my son was way more excited when we passed Cameron Diaz! ha! Thanks Stacey! laura

Marty@A Stroll Thru Life said...

I still think I'm 30 something. haha isn't it funny how we don't feel any older. Love how you keep up with today, I think that is the key.

Leanne said...

Hi Stacey - lovely to meet you and I am so impressed that you have survived nine years of blogging. I'm about to achieve my third year mark and wonder if I'm going to run out of things to say! Your blog is gorgeous and it's so nice to see how far you've come from those clip art days :)
Leanne | www.crestingthehill.com.au

Rhoda @ Southern Hospitality said...

Stacey, I love this post! I think most of us at this certain age wake up and say, how in the world did this happen? We are our parents age and we thought they were so old back then. Time sure goes by fast but it's a reminder that we do have to make the most of what's left. Cheers, girlfriend! xoxo

Eilis said...

You are one of the most uplifting encouraging people I've ever met, both on your blog and over lunch. This is great post!

Brenda Pruitt said...

A thoughtful and beautiful post, Stacey! The ones I love the most. I'm 60 now, but I learned so much in my fifties. I agree. Continue to learn.
Brenda

Amy Johnson said...

Beautiful post! Thanks for sharing!

Sandy said...

Wonderful post Stacey. You captured many of us who are in our 50's thoughts'. For a good while, well actually until very recently, I felt like I was trying to catch up for the years I worked outside the home. All the things I had said I would do when I retired. I have found my pace now. I am loving life...the 50's are pretty good:)
I love how you stated the years we were raising our children just quietly ticked by. They did just that. I think that is why grandchildren are so fun. I don't know yet, but I look forward to that.

Cindy Richter said...

Whaaaat? Younger ladies don't want to talk about child birth with us? I'm so bummed! Can relate and know exactly what you mean but still bummed. Loved your post and it gives me such encouragment to know you still love blogging after 9 years! And oh my golly, I laughed out loud when I read your Dear UT of D note. It's so true! Big hugs NEW friend. We really should get together some time!

Tanya said...

Wonderful post, Stacey! I will be turning 50 next year, and I still feel like the best is yet to come. I had a laugh about the younger women and childbirth in your post. Now that my kids are teens, I feel so far removed from those early years and experiences. I feel like attitudes and styles have already changed so much in the past 15 years. Have a wonderful Wednesday!

Kathleen Grace said...

Yes! Everything you said, I have felt and experienced. That is probably why we have followed each other all these years right? Never stop learning is the best advice there is, for any age group, but especially for us. I actually find myself with a little too much time on my hands and I sometimes have to figure out how I am going to stir up enough interest to do something new, but for the most part, like you I am an optimist. I am glad we have so many more options and opportunities than our mothers did.

Nikki G said...

You know when it hit me? A month or so ago when Mr. Menace got his Social Security and Medicare information in the mail, it hit me right between the eyes that I was married to a Senior Citizen.
:) gwingal

Creations By Cindy said...

I so enjoyed this post today dear friend. It made my day to hear the transparency. And I say HEAR because I felt like I could hear you talking. I am grandmother now to five and sixth one is on the way and oh has many things changed in my life. I could write a book. The one thing I am realizing with each passing year is that somehow....that year went by way to fast! Trying to enjoy the moments of life and embrace the changes that each year brings can sometimes be a little overwhelming and challenging. For the most part I try to embrace life and love every minute of it. I have really enjoyed this today Stacey. Hugs and blessings, Cindy

Simply LKJ said...

Loved this post Stacey. Like Tanya, I too will turn 50 next summer. I had my children when I was young, so I look forward to more me time. Time to pursue things either new or old that have been put on the back burner while rearing them. It's funny because I feel "healthier" and younger now than I did back then. I don't feel pressured to keep up like I used to. I now know what truly matters. I do feel for the young women of today. They are constantly bombarded with "perfection" on social media. They don't see what's outside the camera lens.
And it's funny...way before blogging, facebook, instagram, etc, I belonged to a momma board. There are 10 or so of us who STILL communicate with each other. Now only through FB and Instagram. LOL

The Sketchy Reader said...

We both started blogging in our forties and are now in our fifties! I really needed to read your encouraging words today. Thanks for this post. I'm having a difficult time adjusting to this empty nest stage, but when I read posts like this one, I feel better. Thank you!

Mary K.- The Boondocks Blog said...

Stacey I am so glad you are along for this glorious blogging ride. It really has been an enriching experience for all of us. Did you ever imagine you'd be learning so much about coding? We are never to old to learn new things as long as we have a thirst for learning. I really like the 54 year old Stacey so much because she is beyond the University kind of learning. I hope you enjoy every moment of this time. I think it is the best. We are old enough to know better and at the same time young enough to enjoy.

Stone Cottage Adventures said...

What a wonderful post! I especially love this sentence "There is no end to the timeline for learning and achieving if the desire is there." Such wisdom! -Marci @ Stone Cottage Adventures

'Visiting from the Fabulous 50 Blog Hop

Debbie - Mountain Mama said...

Ooooh it’s not easy getting older, that’s for sure! I’m still in the working full time phase but I am truly hoping when I can slow down a bit and work part time or NOT AT ALL :) I’ll find some time to really relax and enjoy being my age!! Or maybe not ENJOY but at least accept and embrace!

Maria Brittis said...

I think we all have so much in common and similar stories! It has been a pleasure meeting you at last year conference! I am so thrilled we are blogging friends.
Maria

carol@The Red Painted Cottage said...

Stacey, I loved reading your perspective on getting a tad older! I think you're following in your dad's footsteps with writing. I'm so glad I'm where I'm at with this point in my life because I feel I can pursue what I want. Dreams have to sometimes be put on hold when raising a family, but now I can spend my extra time reading, painting, decorating or just walking the dog. Even my husband has taken up all kinds of activities that he never had time for. I really love your blog (and I can't believe you've been writing it for 9 years!); and I'm thrilled we've become friends in real life. Fingers crossed we'll meet up again!

taylorlisa said...

You are rocking this stage of life! 😍😍

Jemma@athomewithjemma said...

Good Morning Stacey,
What a wonderful, thoughtful and encouraging post. I also adore the photo of you and Paul!
As I read your post I could hear your sweet Texas accent and see your smile.
Life is truly good isn't it!!
Jemma

Pam Richardson said...

Stacey, what a beautiful post on growing as we age! I love being challenged with each new season to grow and learn something new. I am enjoying the most wonderful season - becoming a grandmother and keeping my precious 17 month old princess 3 days a week!

Rita C. said...

Stacey, BRAVO! I am clapping and cheering your message. We are as good as we keep wanting to be! I love your blog, and am so happy to have found your friendship. Kudos to better photography, but I sure am glad this is still a place for friends to talk over coffee. And being able to help others with something you've accomplished and can share is terrific.

Lady of the Manor said...

I really enjoy visiting your blog, Staci! I started blogging when I retired several years ago. As a school teacher for many years, retirement meant time for ME to learn new things. I completed the Univ. Extension Master Gardener Core Training, learned how to use a digital camera (a little), rekindle my creative side and continue improving my computer skills. My life is so full now, I'm finding it hard to make time for my blog and I miss it. This blog hop has reinspired me to keep at it and carve out a little time for me. It is such a wonderful way to record our new Retired lives. Thanks for sharing your stories!

Junkchiccottage said...

Well said Stacey. Your blog and friendship bring me such joy. Always love to see that you have a new post up. I started my blog to share my decor style and see if anyone out there did too. Oh boy what a great journey this has been. Friendships that have been formed with peeps I probably would have never met without this land of blogging. For that I feel blessed and grateful. Even with blogs going in a whole new direction from when I started mine I still find it enjoyable. Thanks for sharing your sweet blog and friendship.
xoxo
Kris

Linda Walker said...

Stacey,
I loved this! So very thoughtfully written and I can relate to all of it. I've got a couple years left in my 50's and trying to hold on to them. Blogging and meeting so many fellow bloggers has been a wonderful experience for me. You all inspire me so much! Linda

Donna said...

Stacey, this is an excellent post and I always enjoy reading all the comments. At seventy, I have discovered I need to reevaluate where I am and what I need to do to stay active, physically and mentally. Not only does the outward appearance need some tweaking (boy howdy, does it!) but we all need to learn new things to keep the ole gray matter stirred up. The times, they are a'changin'... Love the picture of you and the Cornbread King! xoxo

FlowerLady Lorraine said...

What a great post Stacey! We are never too old to learn. Life can and does throw us curve balls at times, I lost my dear husband 5 years ago this coming Dec. I am 68 and have been learning to live a different life, without my best friend. It is exciting to figure things out, to learn something new. Every day is a gift.

Love that photo of you and your dear husband.

Love & hugs ~ FlowerLady

A Romantic Porch said...

Oh my goodness. I RELATE to this blog post...so much. EVERYTHING. I think you may just be my new best friend (that you don't know you had...haha) On Jan 1, 2018, my blog will be 10 years old. Yes, so much has changed about blogging and life. But how is it that we have never met? I loved my visit here.

sassytownhouseliving said...

I'm thrilled to have discovered your blog! Love your pics too. I love this time in my life. And having a blog to share my experiences with my readers is truly a blessing.

Art and Sand said...

I loved reading this on so many levels.

I got my teaching credential at 40, my master's at 54, started a blog at 62 ... who knows what I'll do as I enter the last year of my 60's in just a few weeks.

Carol@BlueskkyatHome said...

Stacey, what a great idea for a link party. I loved reading your post and I've visited a few of the others. Some of the best things in my life have happened after 50 (grandkids, for one). I just wish I had joined the blogging community much earlier. You were at the forefront of the movement, girl. Keep leading the way!

VintageSouthernPicks said...

Stacey, I like the list of things you want to learn! And love that photo of you & your hubby! We're never too old to learn or take up something new, are we? We are blessed to have our life partners, b/c I lost my first one & I try to savor life with the one God gave me now. Off for a day's adventure. Love your post!

Alycia Nichols said...

PREACH, sister!!!!!!!! You said it all!!! Here’s to growing wiser, more inquisitive, and better with age! I’m knocking on 60’s door, and I’m going through that door with all the stops pulled out! My Mom, a retired senator, is writing a book now at the lovely and tender age of 88. I’m so proud of and happy for her as a daughter and a woman. We are all so blessed! Right on, girl!!!

Doreen@foxdenrd said...

Every age, every decade, brings with it challenges and thankfully, joys beyond measure if we are open to them. And I believe many in the blogging community are just that...open to whatever comes their way and more importantly, paving a path for others to follow.

Never stop learning is my motto, and as long as we are blogging, it’s almost impossible not to! ;).

xxx

AnnMarie aka Vintage Junkie aka NaNa said...

I love how ambitious you sound about all that you want to learn and do. I love that you want to grow pumpkins....so do I! You have accomplished so much recently just with your beautiful new home. I am past looking forward to where I want to get and am living now. At 60 I am busier than ever with people in my life to care for that range from age 3 to 56! I still have a teenager at home and grandchildren underfoot. I couldn't possibly fit anymore into my daily life but it is good where I am right now. Each stage of life brings new things and a new normal.

Lisa @ Texas Decor said...

Such a beautiful post, Stacey! Blogging has been a great creative outlet for me too. I've made so many friends and love the connection we have. I truly believe many great things are coming in the future. :)

thepaintedapron.com said...

Lovely Stacey~ I remember the first time I officially felt old, it was at my son's wedding...a happy occasion, yet I was stunned! How did this happen?? Anyhoo, it was short lived, and I am as busy and as happy now as I ever was! Keep up the encouragement!
Jenna

Celestina Marie said...

Hi Stacey, What a wonderful post. Yes, changes do happen as we go along our journey. And, as long as we are here, there is plenty to learn and share. I've been blogging over 10 years now, and like you, the community has certainly brought changes all because we have grown in our knowledge and friendships. Truly a blessing and you are included in that blessing my friend. At my age now, I feel like I have arrived. It's a glorious time of life and I'm thankful each day I've been given. I seem to be busier now then ever before. I don't think we have age limits any longer. We can pursue our dreams at any age.
Thank you for sharing such a beautiful post. Happy Weekend ahead!!
p.s. at 54, you are just a young girl!!!!

Cecilia said...

I couldn't agree more with you Stacey! We need to not only keep learning but moving as well. My fifties have been good so far - I'm looking forward to the rest of them. I'm more comfortable with who I am. Blogging has let me meet many wonderful people who love the same things as I do. It's been a wonderful journey!

Leslie Harris said...

What an awesome post--so inspiring, I loved getting to know you like this!
xo
Leslie

Blondie's Journal said...

This is such a relevant post, Stacey. You address our age and experiences, our goals, and the growth we've made as bloggers. I have felt very out of place writing comments to younger bloggers as much as I enjoy their posts. I really do love beauty blogs, fashion blogs, even Mommy blogs, as these ladies really work hard with DIY projects on a budget. Still, it's hard to say I have grandchildren the age of their toddlers!

I'm in a good place. I didn't know what the heck I'd do when my youngest flew the nest 4 years ago. But I took the leap and sold myself with the writing experience I honed in my years of blogging (I think I'm at 10 years now). So I'm actually a professional after 25 years!

I hope you have encouraged others to follow their dreams, to at least start dreaming in a serious way!

Jane

Kim said...

I have a confession to make...this may be my first comment, but I have read your post three times since Wednesday. That's how much I love it!! :)

Debra Pashkowsky said...

I agree with you whole heartily about not letting age get in the way. I think blogging keeps us young, look at everything we do by blogging. Great post!

Decor To Adore said...

Such a fabulously inspiring post! I LOVE that photo of you and your husband. Gorgeous!

Kathy Olson said...

I enjoyed reading this. I know, the fifties are different. Even typing that I'm in my fifties seems strange. I still feel like I'm about 42. But I'm not!
I'm a pastor's wife and I love encouraging the young moms when I can, but at the same time, I wonder if they really want to hear from me. I probably seem so old to them. I just forget that I'm older.
This is a time that I just have to navigate and realize that I'm not part of the young crowd. Sometimes I'm not sure where I fit exactly and sometimes feel lonely. But then I listen to someone like Joyce Meyer each morning (who is in her 70's) and I thank God for her and her wisdom:) I thank God for Kathie Lee Gifford, too, as funny as that sounds. She is in her sixties and looks fabulous. I don't think of her as old.
Anyway, I'm rambling! You are a beautiful friend and I appreciate the words you shared:)

Shirley@Housepitality Designs said...

I must say that I am a "bit" older than you and I am doing the things that I have always wanted to do. Life is definitely great after the Fifties....but I still feel like that high school gal at heart!! Here's to being happy in our golden years...as they certainly are truly golden!!!

At Rivercrest Cottage said...

Your post was a very insightful view of life. You are so right about lifetime learning. My favorite memory of our first year of marriage for my husband and I was we enrolled in another bachelors degree program and went to school every other weekend for our first year of marriage to do 2 years (junior and senior years) of college in 1 year. We were just young pups of 47 and 50 years of age...starting out fresh and new (LOL) with full time jobs and full time college together.

Barbara Chapman said...

Hello Stacey! :) I loved that time when my kids were small and yes, I did enjoy talking with younger mothers-to-be about motherhood, but you're right. Some are interested in hearing my thoughts; perhaps things have changed That Much {but I doubt it}. ;) I'm glad you are writing! It's fun! I guess I'm writing for the same reasons, too. Now... whose books are whom's/who's?? Have a great week and I'm happy to have been on the Fantastic Fifty blog hop with you!!! <3

Nikki Frank-Hamilton said...

Stacey, isn't it crazy? It seems like just yesterday we were having babies. Time is such a fickle thing. I never have enough time to get things done, but it's been 26 years since my first pregnancy. Where did the time go? I wish that as our kids got older that time would slow down a bit so we could catch up. I am enjoying the fact that I'm not changing diapers and not having to taxi kids around. Finding out who I am at this age, not just a mother or a wife, is refreshing and exciting too.

Jaybird said...

Well, since I have you beat by 20 years, I can say that your perspective will weather the storms very well!!! I love the picture of you two....it is very cute, and just shows the personality that I have come to expect from you!
Blessings to you, and yes....keep on learning so you can share and teach me a new trick or two ;^)
J

Katie Mansfield said...

Well said. I loved this wonderful post. Blogging really has changed a lot!

Patricia Krank said...

We arrived here so quickly didn't we? My 62nd birthday is this month and I'm quite stunned by that fact! Sometimes I can begin to feel irrelevant and then I'm reminded of the influence we can have on those around us. Especially because we don't have little ones at home.

I love reading examples of women (and men) who accomplish great things in their golden years!

Thanks Stacey :)

corners of my life said...

Even though your blog is not a book you could certainly turn it into one. Wouldn’t those sons love to have a copy.

Jill Nelson said...

I love this post! I'm 57 and discovering that I have a lot of living yet to do after getting a divorce last year--after 34 years! Life is so much better now, and I look forward to what God has in store.

Cristina Garay said...

Stacey, this is such a wonderful post! I'm walking right into my fifties and I'm so looking forward to it. You said it right, we need to continue learning and evolving, that's the advice I give my kids, no matter what age you are, 5 or 85, it's always good to learn something new. You rock girl! And I love that picture of you and your husband. <3