Saturday, May 16, 2009

Sunday Favorites

Sunday Favorites is hosted by the sweet, sweet Miss Chari at Happy to Design. This repeat post takes me back to the beginning of my blogging days.

Remember when you first started your blog?

It's a scary venture into an unknown world. What if someone really weird leaves mean comments? What if someone really nice is out there and doesn't speak? We've all felt that way. This is a letter I wrote shortly after starting this blog.

Dear Lurking Reader,

I know you come to visit because you tell me in person that you do. (Plus there's a counter that tells me how many hits there have been).

For a year before I started this blog I was a lurker too. I creeped around silently on blogs that you see listed over on that side bar. Over time these bloggers, whom I have not been lucky enough to meet in person, started to seem like friends. Even though they didn't know I was there. I do realize that sounds bizarre.

Here's the thing ...I've discovered that it's so much more fun when this is interactive. My blog has no purpose except that it's talking, cooking, decorating, family life, etc. I just really enjoy it.

Do me a favor and leave comments! My ever supportive husband says that comments are just an ego boost. Pooey on him. I like to talk to people!! If you have good ideas that we should blog about let me know.

Signed a Reformed Lurker

31 comments:

Keetha said...

The whole "lurking" thing is just a big enigma to me. I THRIVE on the communication part of blogging, and without comments, there just really isn't any communication, is there?

BUT - - - I've made several attempts to get lurkers to delurk on my blog too, mostly with precious little result.

southerninspiration said...

I agree......isn't it funny that a blogger can have 80+ "followers" but get only 15 to 20 comments???? Oh, well, I'm with you...I love the interactive communication that blogging brings!
thanks,Stacy!

suzanne

Kim @ Manning Family Tree said...

I love leaving comments. I think sometimes lurkers feel they are butting into someone's personal life. I love butting in & love having others butt in on mine as well. lol. My blog started out as a family blog for my extended family to reconnect with one another. It worked some, but mostly it is one of my sister's & me who write the posts. Most of my family reads it, but they don't leave comments. So I started venturing out into blogdom & joining blog parties & making new friends. Now I get comments and I love it. What I enjoy the most about blogging is finding out that we are normal.

bj said...

This is a GREAT repost...
I agree with all you are saying.
Happy day, bj

laurie @ bargain hunting said...

Stacey, what a great letter from a reformed lurker! I had to take the counter off my blog after only a few days, because it was driving me crazy knowing how many hits my blog got from people who didn't comment. (I assumed they didn't comment because they didn't like what they saw). I decided it was better to delete the counter than to delete my blog. laurie

Millie said...

Yep I'm with Laurie - I threw a counter on recently, but took it right off again the next day. Figured that seeing all those hits & not being able to convert them into Commenters would do my head in! I think that was the Sales Person in me coming out!
Millie ^_^

Mrs. Petrie said...

I was pretty much a huge lurker until I had my own blog. What you don't know, right?

Marcy said...

Good morning! I'm a lurker... I love to read blogs and really do try to leave comments - but don't comment on each blog or on each post - just where I have something to add. And I always come back - so it's not that I disagree with anything just that I don't have anything further to offer. (Maybe I'm the silent type.) But if I do have something to say - I speak up! Part of the interactive part may be asking questions and having something to talk about. I'm still figuring it out myself.

I loved seeing your pictures from Savannah - and that Mexican dish that you made for your son looks yummy! Keep up the great work!

Sherrie said...

Thank you for posting this. I started my blog less than 2 months ago and I wondered if anybody was seeing it. I put a counter on a week ago, at least I now know I am getting activity even if there are few comments. Its really good to know that we have all been there.
Have a GREAT Day!
~Sherrie

Rue said...

Good morning Stacey :)

I think most lurkers don't have a blog. I remember when I first started reading them, I wasn't sure if I should say anything because I didn't have one myself. Nowadays, I can't keep up and comment as much as I'd like.

I still lurk on blogs that I know don't comment back (unless it's something I feel the need to speak up on) because I figure they just want you to read or they would visit at least once to see who you were.

Great re-post :)

xo,
rue

Twyla and Lindsey said...

Well, Stacey, this is one of My favorite posts of yours too because it was the very First one I ever read! I loved it so much and I commented (of course) and we've been friends ever since. I think it's wonderful how you stood up and spoke your mind. I am amazed myself when I see our counter jump up and so few comments. Have a nice Sunday! Twyla

Christi @ A Southern Life said...

What a great post. All of us bloggers love comments, don't we? I have regular readers from some cities that never comment. It's okay, I know they are there because I see them in my analytics. Since they are regular readers, I would love to get to meet them. Comments make you feel connected.

Marilyn said...

I too love those comments. It is just the connection for me. I started my blog just for a reference that I could go to for a reminder of things. Found out how much fun it was to comment and get comments. I love your blog and reading about your fun life and great decorating ideas.

abnsigoslady said...

Hi there. First off...love your header. The red is GORGEOUS.

I haven't been blogging very long, but I too love comments. Thanks for sharing.

Laura @ the mansion

Dishesdone said...

I'm happy to have found the Sunday Favorites! Enjoyed the post AND the comments :)

Lori E said...

Good post. I usually leave a comment but I don't want to feel like I am just milking the system to get a return visit unless I have something to actually contribute to the post.

The good thing is that most posts do prompt a response from me because I have a lot to say. I'm like the doll with the string in her back. Just wind me up and off I go. Why just the other day I ............. see.

SewSweetStudio said...

Stacey, I found you by accident,but have enjoyed your posts. I am a sewer and your name caught my attention right away.
I guess I do lurk alot, but speak up when I have something to contribute. Sometimes someone has already said what I would, but after this will put something in to the mix.
I hope to start my own blog soon, and you have made me see the importance of comments. Hopefully I will be able to inspire others to comment.
Beverly

Brenda said...

What do men know about women really? We all know just what you mean. And we've all been there. And we're all happy to be holding this conversation, Stacey.
Brenda

Domestic Designer said...

I love leaving comments and I love receiving comments. Like you, for about a year I never left comments. Now I love the friendships I have made in "blogland". Have a great day!

Karen said...

Hi Stacey,
Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment on my Blog! I love this post!!! It is so wonderful when people leave comments because you get to met some of the most wonderful people around.
Have a great week!
~Karen

Simply Dandy said...

There are a lot of lurkers as I also have a counter. I love to read comments and I love to leave comments. I have formed so many wonderful blog friendships this past year.

Hugs,
LeAnn:)

Daphine said...

Great post! Yep, I have a lot of lurkers too! It's quite okay. I pray that they have been blessed by just reading either my post or the comments left behind. In just the short time that I've been blogging, I've met some wonderful friends. I never dreamed that I would be this blessed by blogging of all things.

Have a great week ahead!

Terrie's Lil' Piece of Serenity said...

Stacey, I really don't understand being a lurker. Before I started my blog I would read BJ and Rues blogs. I did this for a few weeks. I wanted to understand what blogging was about. Then, I jumped right in. I think it's fun to participate. I would never walk into someone's home without knocking and greeting them. Besides what fun would it be if we weren't creating these great frindships? I am so glad I have gotten to know you and all of our friends here in blogland.
Hugs, Terrie

Mama said...

Hi Stacey, great re-post, love your letter to the lurkers, I have a counter but rarely look at it nowadays, not enough time, I just love and appreciate all the people who do take time to say hi. happy Monday, Kathy.

An Accomplished Woman said...

Stacey,

I consider you a dear friend. You have always been encouraging, supportive and complimentary to me. I think your husband is right on the surface, however, don't we need cheerleaders? Too many people are willing to jump in and tell us what we do wrong. I need cheerleaders and you, my dear, are very good at being supportive.

Thanks for your comment about my dog. I am so devastated. I have lost three dogs in four and a half years. It is very painful and I was hesitant to mention it.

Cheering you on!!!!

Cynthia

Chari said...

Hi Stacey...

My friend, so glad that you decided to rerun this post again! I feel exactly the same way about blogging...I do it for the commraderie, however I have often wondered why so many just "lurk"? I love reading the comments that everyone leaves and almost always try to encourage everyone who stops by my blog to leave one so that I can get back to them! I don't know...maybe it's just me...but I feel compelled to leave a comment after I've read through someone's post! It's just good manners! Hehe!!! I have sure enjoyed your blog and you know that I always leave a comment...and usually a really "lengthy" one at that! wink! I'm so glad that you joined in with Sunday Favorites this week...I enjoyed your post!!!

I do apologize for being so late to get over here...but I was away for the weekend and I'm just now getting to the computer! Have a wonderful week, my friend!!!

Warmest wishes,
Chari

Chari said...

Hi Stacey...

My friend, so glad that you decided to rerun this post again! I feel exactly the same way about blogging...I do it for the commraderie, however I have often wondered why so many just "lurk"? I love reading the comments that everyone leaves and almost always try to encourage everyone who stops by my blog to leave one so that I can get back to them! I don't know...maybe it's just me...but I feel compelled to leave a comment after I've read through someone's post! It's just good manners! Hehe!!! I have sure enjoyed your blog and you know that I always leave a comment...and usually a really "lengthy" one at that! wink! I'm so glad that you joined in with Sunday Favorites this week...I enjoyed your post!!!

I do apologize for being so late to get over here...but I was away for the weekend and I'm just now getting to the computer! Have a wonderful week, my friend!!!

Warmest wishes,
Chari

Chari said...

Ooops...so sorry about posting that last comment twice...I didn't think it worked the first time! Hehe!!!

Chari

Melissa Miller said...

Stacey this is toooo cute!
I'm afraid I could never be a lurker...I talk way too much. HEHE!

Have a wonderful week.
~Melissa :)

PS I have a question???
Do you have a follower button that I just can't see? I have several blogger friends that I can't find the button and can't keep up with new postings. :)

Ms. Tee said...

You are too cute, Ms. Reformed Lurker :) So glad you de-lurked!

Sue said...

Hi Stacey, The only occasion I lurk and don't comment anymore is when a blogger doesn't acknowledge me even if I've left her multiple comments. Rue has told me over and over not to lurk, period! As a newer blogger,I now know that if I comment on someone else's blog, it is quite often going to gain me comments on MY blog. I love meeting new people, and as southerninspiration implied, what is the use of having oodles of followers, if they don't comment? And that darn counter DOES tend to make me feel inadequate, seeing that I get a good number of hits, but sometimes, fewer comments. We all want some gratification, and for me, comments fill that bill. Loved your post. Sue